There are many highs and lows of adjustment in adoption. In order to address the complexities, Nicole Story is finishing a book on the subject for publication.
“Postpartum Depression” of Adoptive Parents
The Disillusionment of Adoption & a Path tO Normalcy
BY NICOLE STORY, EDS, MED, LMFT, LMHC | PSYCHOTHERAPIST | MOTHER
Table of Contents
Chapter 1. The Disillusionment of the Adoptive Child: When
the Honeymoon/Wedding Ends
Chapter 1b. What is Normalcy: Development Approriateness
Chapter 2. Oxytocin – The Bonding/Anti-Anxiety Hormone
Chapter 3. Reactive Attachment Disorder/RADS & Boderline
Personality – What are they? Can the Traumatized/Wounded Child Heal?
Chapter 4. The Brain can be Re-Wired: Corrective Emotional
Experiences to Foster Healthy Attachment Bonds
Chapter 5. Developmental Stages & Defiance of
Adolescence: How to Create a Healthy Attachment Bond with an Individuating Teen/Tween
Chapter 6. The Couple Bubble: Avoiding Harmful Triangulation
with your Child and Spouse
Chapter 7. Attachment Style of the Parents: How Previous Emotionally Abusive Relationships can impact the Parents’ Attachment Styles. Can the Adoptive Mother Attach?
Chapter 8. Psychodynamics: Unconscious Defense Mechanisms and How to Recognize Them
Chapter 9.Transference from the Parents’ Family Dynamics: Why a Family Systems Approach to Treatment?
Chapter 10. Triggers: Neurological Ambassadors vs Warriors – Navigating Personal Triggers/Your Child’s Triggers
Chapter 11. Two Worlds Collide: The Coming Together of Two or More Cultures - Assimilation vs Acculturation
Chapter 12. Neurolinguistic Programming and Self-Fulfilling Prophecies
Chapter 13. Neuroscience of the Adoptive Child – How to Correct Behaviors without Punishment using a Neuro-Emotionally focused approach
Chapter 14. Fixed Mindset vs. Growth Mindset of Child/Brain Development: Pathologizing vs Insight
Chapter 14b. The Humanist Approach (your child is doing the best he/she can at this given time with mal-adaptive learned coping strategies)
Chapter 15. Love Sense: All Humans Require Affection, Love and Stability to be Healthy – Maslow's Monkey and the Wire Mother
Chapter 16. Building Love Maps - The Road to Healthy Attachment
Chapter 16b. How Do I Know I am Loved? Speaking the same Love Language
Chapter 17. Living with Intensity: Understanding the Sensitivity, Excitability, Reactivity and Emotional Development of Adopted Children
Chapter 18. All Children are Gifted: Finding the Strengths and Positive Traits in Your Child
Chapter 19. Communication: Avoiding the Four Horsemen of Gottman’s Relationship Apocalypse – Contempt; Resentment; Stonewalling; and Criticism
Chapter 20. Handling Neighbors, Family, Friends and Society
List of Tables
List of Profiles
About the Author
About the Author
Nicole Story, EDS, MED, LMFT, LMHC
is a Psychotherapist and the Clinical Director of Oceanside Family Therapy
& Assessments, in Jacksonville Beach, Florida. There she has provided clinical and licensure
supervision for Master’s and Doctorate level staff of numerous local agencies
including: YCC/Youth Crisis Center; Family Foundations; Camelot Behavioral
Care; Breakthroughs; River Region; Naval Hospital Jacksonville; Veterans’
Affairs Jacksonville; and Daniel Kids Inc.
She also served as the Clinical Administrator
of a dual diagnosis adolescent residential facility and numerous adolescent
out-patient programs. With over 16 years
of pediatric psychotherapy and intensive family therapy; she continues to train
clinicians in best practice approaches for complex and difficult cases.
With an undergraduate degree from
Rollins College in *Cultural Psychology and graduate degrees in Mental Health
and Family Therapy from the University of Florida, her post-master’s Specialist’s
degree is equivalent to a doctorate of psychology/PsyD, which is a terminal
clinical degree in the field. She has
lectured at numerous workshops for psychotherapy and taught as an adjunct at Florida
State College Santa Fe, in Gainesville, Florida. Trained in both intrapsychic mental health
and family systems she holds two licenses with the Florida Department of Health
Medical Quality Assurance and is a Qualified Clinical Supervisor for both.
President Emeritus of NEFAMFT, the
Northeast Florida chapter of AAMFT (American Association for Marriage and
Family Therapy) Nicole has served in several leadership roles in the field of family
therapy and school based mental health programs including President of the
Beaches Resource Center Foundation. Active
in the community she is a clinical member of the Florida Association of Infant Mental
Health; the Theraplay Institute; the APA (American Psychological Association) and serves on the SAC
committee of Seaside Community Charter School.
She has also been called as an expert witness in Federal, State,
Immigration and Family Courts.
Starting out in the field 18 years ago, she worked with the indigent and chronically mentally ill populations and DCF/court ordered patients at Meridian Behavioral Services; The Child Guidance Center; and Hope Haven Child and Family Clinic. Watching how old school theories and behavioral/punishment approaches were harming clients she accrued an insightful, comprehensive and intelligent approach to working with attachment disorders and parenting.
Originally from Ireland and married
for 17 years, she and her husband have two wonderful, gifted and spirited
*Cultural Psychology is an Area Studies major incorporating psychology,
anthropology, 3 foreign languages and a humanistic photojournalistic thesis on “Deviant
Youth Culture in US Society.”